Marriage is the most important and difficult thing in one’s life, so we have to choose our life partner prudently. When I was a little girl, like many other girls, I had dreams of marrying a prince riding a white horse on the green pasture and seek for perfect guy. After I grew up, I realized that it is not likely to happen. As I think of my ideal spouse, many traits and qualities come to my mind. Of many qualities, I am going to give 3 most important things that I would look for my ideal spouse. First of all, my spouse should be naive.
Meaning of ‘naive’ is ranging over a broad gamut, but what I mean is not to smoke, drink, etc. Nowadays many people especially the students are polluted by hazardous things, such as smoking, drinking, watching AV…… However, I don’t like smoking and drinking. Moreover, by smoking and drinking, people’s health will be undermined and they will more likely to make a mistake. One of my neighbors was divorced. One day, the patriarch of that family had a drinking party at the bar and he had drunk a lot at there. He drank so much that he cannot control himself. One girl worked at the bar came to him and seduce him.
Unfortunately, he couldn’t resist to the allurement and made a big mistake. As a result, they have divorce. Secondly, I would like to marry a man who is faithful. I want my spouse to make me trust him that he will love me forever. Trust between each other is an important thing, once a person back down on one’s trust, it’s almost impossible to regain it. To friends, trust means friendship; to husband and wife, trust means marriage; trust is kind of relationship. For example, one day, husband came back to home late than usual, so the wife asked him the reason. Then he answered that he had a meeting. The wife was relieved after she heard this.
However, the wife found the mark of lipstick on the shirts, smelled out fragrance of the women’s perfume and found the name card of the barwoman in the pocket. She asked the husband again with those things, however, the husband was irrefutable. The trust between them was back down. They couldn’t live happily after this incident. I have named several characteristics that I would like my spouse to have, but if there is one that is more important than the rest, the belief in Christianity. Religion is important for the one who believes it, so it’s very important to have a same religion with the life partner.
Most of the Christian regard strong belief in Christianity as the most important element of choosing their spouse. I do QT(quiet time- get a message from god through reading a bible) almost every day. I have imagined sharing a message of god with husband every morning, just like my mother and father do every day. My mother roused my father from sleep at 6 o’clock in the morning and had a washing up. Then, they sat in the sofa and did QT together. They lived a happy life every day. All in due time, I’m not ready to get married yet, but I will find the man that is close to my ideal spouse and live happily in the future.